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December 2008: Count Your Blessings return
Why do most of us focus on the negative things in our life instead of the positive? Many of us are better off than most people in this world and yet our thoughts of what we don’t have or have lost or haven’t achieved yet are always at the forefront. How did this happen? When did the negative thoughts start taking control and how do we change it? How do we focus more on the positive? Maybe we can start by remembering the lyrics of Irving Berlin’s song “Count Your Blessings Instead of Sheep”:
If you're worried and you can’t sleep
just count your blessings instead of sheep
and you'll fall asleep counting your blessings.
Take the first step with me and try to focus on the positives you have in your life and then when things get tough, remember what you have and have achieved and how hard you’ve worked to get to where you are and maybe the hardship won’t seem so bad with this shift in focus. We all have tough times, but its how we deal with them that can turn the hard times into achievements.
Wishing you a Happy Holidays!
November 2008: Thankful return
On this cold, rainy day over the Thanksgiving weekend I’m reflecting on so many things that I am thankful for…family, friends, and the fact I’m alive. With all the evils happening in this world around us, I feel lucky to be alive and able to enjoy so many simple things. I’m most grateful for the wonderful gift of time and the fact I’ve been able to learn and enjoy so much in the 33 years I’ve been around. I’ve recently reconnected with so many friends from years past and in deciding what to catch them up on in the many years we’ve been part has been enlightening. I’ve started to see just what I really value. I’ve told them all about my current job, the wonderful group of friends I’ve made, my family, and the time I had with my ex-boyfriend.
My current job at Spotco has been very rewarding for me. I’ve really grown as a person and really been able to learn and appreciate the value of working hard and helping people get the job done.
My friends and family have been such an integral part of my growing, learning, living, and surviving this life. I don’t know where I would be without them.
My ex-boyfriend, Mike. I know I finally made it “To The Other Side” because I can finally look back at our time together and be thankful for it. I’m not angered by it or wish we could be back together. I’m grateful to have had him in my life and no matter how much time goes by, I’ll always wish the best for him!
I’m thankful for so many things, but especially learning how all of the above have made me the person I am today…a stronger, smarter, and wittier person.
October 2008: Friends return
Friends. What defines a friend? Is it someone you talk to or see every day?� Once a week? Once a month or less frequent than that? Each of us has our own definition of a friend. I feel I have many friends in my life. Some I talk to every day and see once a week. Others I talk to/see less, but know if I needed them in an emergency, they’d be there. I have those I consider my good friends that I want to be there for me in good and bad times and know they will be. I also have friends I just want to see every now and then and I’m okay with that. I also have some friends I’ve learned I’d be better off without. I’ve had many friendships change over the years. Some friends I’ve lost touch with as our lives got busy and the correspondence between us became less. I’ve also had friends drop me with the click of a mouse, through an out of the blue phone call, or a written letter I couldn’t respond fast enough to. The worst way to lose a friend is by betrayal. It’s in that moment, you realize, they weren’t your friend in the first place or maybe they were and somewhere along the way, their misery took over and clouded their judgment, but it’s too late because the damage is done. It takes a lot of strength to say goodbye to a friend. Life is short and it’s too short to waste your precious time and energy on those that don’t enrich your life. Friendships change over time. As we grow up, our definition of a friend changes and we realize which friends we still want and which ones we don’t.�
September 2008: What a Whirlwind return
The challenges of the first half of 2008 are coming to a close: getting past my first love, losing my grandparents a month apart, and changing friendships. These past few months have been very draining for me emotionally. Natalie Imbruglia sings “Come September, everything wrong, gonna be alright, come September.” That couldn’t be truer. August started my resurrection, but September has really seen my rising. I’m back in the dating pool which is shallow and deep, but I push onward. I may have lost some friends, but others are getting stronger and I’m becoming more in tune with myself. Here’s to the fall, a new season dawning!
August 2008: To The Other Side return
How do you know when you have moved on from losing your first love…when you feel like the crazy has been drilled out of your head (just like Jeri Blank had done on “Strangers With Candy”). A weight was lifted off my shoulder and I smiled for the first time in months. I laughed for no reason. I was happy again and finally able to sleep through the night. Time does heal your heart and helps you see that the choices you made were the right ones. It took a brief interaction with my ex-boyfriend for me to realize I made the right decision in breaking up with him all those months back, even though at the time it was the toughest & most painful decision I had to make. I see now it was the right one for me. Deana Carter’s song “To The Other Side” says it best:
“I do believe I’m crossing over * Feel that weight come off my shoulder * I close my eyes * And I drift closer to the other side * Lord I swear I’m crossing over * Found the strength to let you go and * The thought of you is getting colder * And further from my mind * And I think I crossed that line * To the other side”
July 2008: A- List vs. D-List return
I've been doing a lot of thinking (especially after catching up on Kathy Griffin’s “My Life On The D-List) and this is what I've concluded:
I'm an A-List guy. I should date A-List guys...no more dating D-Listers...I'm done with the guys who can't handle the fact I don't drink. I'm done with the guys who talk only about themselves. I'm done with the "dandruff" duds. A-Listers belong with A-Listers and D-Listers belong with losers of their own.
I had an A-Lister and I lost him and I have to live with that. From here on out my life is not going to be on the D-List anymore...I'm stepping it up...A-List only!
June 2008: Time
Time is a healer. Time heals everything from bruises to cuts to a broken heart. When does the hurt go away? It depends on how deep the cut is. No one knows for sure when time will heal your pain, but each day the pain is a little less than the day before and then one day it’s gone. The major question is how do you get through the pain while it’s happening?
May 2008: First Loves
One never forgets their first love…the excitement, the possibilities, the enchantment, but after it ends, how do you move on? How do you not compare every next person to your first love? How do you start your second relationship without the baggage of the first? If you do start another relationship, are doing it because you like the new person or because you just don’t want to be lonely or because you think you can re-create your first relationship without the issues that made it end? They say the first cut is the deepest, but how do you heal from it and move forward? Do you ever really get over your first love or do you just get through them?
April 2008: Facebook return
Facebook, the latest in social networking on the internet. This girl from high school just requested to be my friend...was I even friends with her in high school?? I'm not sure... aquaintances yes, but friends? Does her request warrant an acceptance? I'm not sure yet...Is her request a sign of others that might request my friendship?
Is the guy who knocked my head into a metal post in the boys locker room during gym all of a sudden going to request to be my friend? Or the guy who under his called me a fag when I walked by him in the guidance office? My memories of high school are as vivid as ever...I could go on with the list of people who might request my friendship, but the point is, what warrants a friendship on Facebook?